pUckER uP - its kissing time !

I am a hopeless romantic ... it's an undeniable fact. I'm all for handwritten love letters, cute little surprises, moderate amounts of PDA, and those borderline crazy, desperately in love, I-can't-live-without-you scenes that DON'T only happen in movies.

That being said, I'd like to share the 5 (very cliche, but also very romantic) kisses that I daydream about...

1. The First Kiss

This may seem simple and ordinary, but keep in mind, I know a couple who proclaimed they waited until MARRIAGE to have their first kiss!! I wouldn't be able to do that , it does remind us of how meaningful the first kiss can be....My first kiss (ever) was kind of traumatizing

... the guy used a lot of tongue and I basically fell over because he was so into it... I dreaded our next kiss... thank god it never happened .

2. The Kiss in the Pouring Rain

It would be slightly uncomfortable to get soaked, but wouldn't it be worth it?! To share a dramatic movie-scene kiss, just like in The Notebook and Sweet Home Alabama and probably a hundred other chick flicks. I'm not sure how I would go about planning this... not to mention, the guy would have to be okay with getting drenched. It's still fun to think about.

3. The Kiss Under the Mistletoe

Self-explanatory. It wouldn't need to be a make out session... a quick peck would be nice. It's just a cute, cheesy thing to do during the holidays. Extra points if you put it somewhere that isn't noticeable right away and lure your man into the trap! Hahahaha.

4. The New Year's Eve Kiss

Picture this - a late night party with a disco ball, fireworks lighting up the sky, people everywhere, and then... time stands still, and all of a sudden you only see one person in the room. Psh, yeah right !! that's not gonna happen. I spend my New Year's at home with a few friends, flipping through tv to see how Hong Kong's fireworks compare to Times Square in NY. If I ever do end up at a party, though, a kiss at midnight would surely make the countdown more exciting. And worthwhile.

5. The Wedding Day Kiss

I don't know how I'm going to make it through my wedding day without bawling like 5 times. I know I'm going to be emotional and it'll be a challenge keeping composure in front of everyone. Out of all the kisses on my list, this one would be the most meaningful of all... the first kiss as husband and wife. A kiss that will seal the deal for the rest of my life. I hope and pray that I will marry the right man!

Have you experienced any of these kisses? Can you think of any to add to the list?

SnEEz-GAsM !!

SNeeZgASm

Gosh !! I loves me a good sneeze. When I sneeze, I'm all in. If I'm standing up there's usually a straight-leg kick involved. If I'm sitting down, arms will flail. And they're loud.There is no point in sneezing if it is not a full body experience that involves all extremities and the entirety of your torso, all expelled through your face in a 700 mile-an-hour plume with the concussive force of a bird strike against a Boeing.

I acquired my devastating sneeze style because of my allergies that eventually merged into one never-ending soul-destroying miasma of mucoid misery. (Alliteration! Woo!) I grew bored with shouting "Ah-CHOO!" Who thought up "ah-choo" anyway? There's no reason it has to be that. I started with "Ah-HAAAH!" which made me sound like a brilliant inventor or an overenthusiastic detective, depending on the day. "Bla-hurrrgh!" was good, too, kind of a zombie sneeze, and "Wa-harrrrgh!" as well, which sounded like I was about to plunge off a cliff.Those were particularly satisfying, all guttural and fatalistic, especially if I got several in a row.

Some people don't know how to sneeze. They sneeze with a loud, sharp, half an "Ah!" followed by a soft "Choo!" that sounds almost exactly like a tiny Pikachu noise. Then they say "Excuse me." No one blesses them, because it's clear that they are embarrassed and guilty and deserve what's coming to them. Other people can't bring themselves to sneeze at all. They go "Knxthch!" and their eyes get momentarily huge. I don't understand such people!!

Although my allergies are not persistant ,I still have occasion to sneeze, and when I do I revel in the convulsive ballet of maxillary, trigeminal, and vagus nerves, the cascade of histamines, the spasm of the pharyngeal and tracheal muscles.


Sneezgasm : better than an orgasm ?

Well... dont think soOO

But, in general, much more acceptable at public places.

"LIBERATING" - never settle for less than you deserve!

How I did it : I managed to let go toxic friendships that were just draining the life out of me, letting go of super selfish people who only cared for themselves, unwilling to be there or at least listen to others. let alone showed some respect.

I did not settle for any guy just to avoid loniliness, just for the sake of companionship, because they deserve better, to be respected and cherished.

I did not settle for a safe job just so that I can easily pay my bills, I choose a career which challenges me, which allows me to grow, which I am passionate about.

I did not just follow my faith blindly, just merely following what everyone else is doing, I was fortunate to have finally found the perfect spiritual path for me, and boy oh boy am I greatful for this.

I do not let peoples thoughts and words put me down, they do affect me sometimes, but i live my life the best way i know how, i give my best to everyone, they can say i am too naive and call me " Miss Goodie Two Shoes", but i am playing a bigger game in life where my ego can expect a lot of challenge and resistance from me. I deserve to live my life the best way i know how. I deserve to be myself, for how can I be otherwise.

My Mantra :Just live your life the best way you know how. Take the hardship, challenges, and all the bullshit in life as a learning process, a chance to be a new you, a bigger grand version of yourself, its ironic that the hardest moments in life is also the best moment of growth.


Resources: A heart that beats with determination and the will to never give up, no matter how hard or depressing and dire the situation is.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S !!

Have you ever wondered what the real essence of the saying....

"A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed" is?

People talk about the true value of friendship actually without knowing what it stands for. According to me true friendship is the one, in which you do not have to maintain formalities with each other.
True friends are not opportunists. They don't help, because they have something to gain out of it. True friendship is marked by selflessness.... It is not easy getting true friends for the lifetime. If you have even one true friend, consider yourself blessed. Remember, all best friends are friends, but not all friends can be best friends....

a true friend, is someone who really cares, listens to whatever you have to say, no matter what it is, no matter how important it is. someone whom you can rely on,
knows how you feel,
no matter when,
no matter how busy they are.
someone who will be there,
promises to stay,
no matter what,
no matter when. someone who wont break any promises,
tries their best to keep them,
no matter how small they are,
no matter what it is. someone who listens to your every word,
never interrupting you,
no matter how much,
no matter how nonsensical. someone who listens to your every complaints, comforting you, no matter how irrelevant, no matter how crappy.

someone who calls you every now and then,
asking you ‘how are you’ telling you how much you mean to them,
no matter when.

someone who volunteers to lend you a listening ear,
and a crying shoulder,
no matter how they feel themselves,
no matter when.

someone who cannot be replaced,
even with a hundred people.
because for true friends,
even when they dont speak much,
in your heart you know it all...

In this world of cynics and back stabbers, I was lucky to find some people who are worth being friends with. .. An Ode to my true friends ....I silently thank god for introducing you in my life..I want you to know you are such an important part of my LIFE ..and I want to thank you for being such an amazing FRIEND .

HURT :“Being hurt by someone you truly care about leaves a hole in you heart !!

Your words ...they cut me so deep leaving painful gashes on my heart...I won't let you hurt me any more..I'm done giving you power,control over me.....Maybe there will be some scars....Scars of the things you did..that will haunt me forever.
Maybe the harsh words have been said......and the damage has been done...I'll live with those scars.

I'll look at them.....those gashes formed by the words you said and remember the hurt you caused me...
It's not easy to walk away...each step I took away from you ...brought the hurt and the pain.....
But I kept on walking.....

Finally, I've taken off the mask Of a perfect happy girl.
I'm through with bottling it all inside.......It's time for me to just be myself and not let you force me to be someone I'm not...

I'm done ...I won't let you........and.... you can't hurt me anymore !!

Law of Karma: What You Give, You Get From Life!!

"Every action has an equal and opposite reaction," declared Isaac Newton in the 1700s. "Garbage in, garbage out," say geeks. Sow a seed, reap a fruit. Plant a chilli, you get chillies back. Plant a mango, you get mangoes back.... then i thought to myself but how is it that sometimes people sow chillies but get mangoes and others sow mangoes, but get chillies? I then figured that there's no inconsistency in this; the chillies are simply fruits of some earlier actions or decisions and the mangoes are yet to come.

One has to realise that you can't force a seed to grow. You can't compel a flower to blossom. These things depend on the seed type and environmental conditions. Therefore, one must not get dejected - one must not stop sowing good seeds, because there exists no other way to receive good fruits. Often, bitter, drier fruits are more nutritious and health-inducing than the succulent, sweeter ones.

The natural law of the universe : You get what you give, though you may not recognise it, because, it may arrive earlier or later than you expect it to or it could come in a somewhat different guise.

Lemme explain with an example : The cells in our body nourish one another, supporting and supplying each other with nutrients the other needs. The entire biological and ecological system combined makes possible the sustenance of the fabulous and intricate organic system/s we call 'LIFE'.

Similarly, if you befriend, you will be befriended. If you love, you will be loved. Love, family and friends enrich one's life more than any amount of wealth. But you need to make continual investments of friendliness, affection and love to keep the system fully functioning. This is because we are all human beings and we don't love all the time. Sometimes we say nasty things to a loved one - maybe we say things we don't really mean, but it amounts to a withdrawal from the love account. What you take out, needs to be redeposited as early as possible.

Affection and love are not about giving away money or buying expensive gifts, although it is necessary to do these things on certain occasions. When you give of your possessions, you give little. When you give of your self, you give all. Time, a sympathetic ear, humour or a helping hand in times of distress are all what more people need to receive and to give.

My MAntRa IN liFE :
"Give with your whole being, your whole heart - remember, half a seed cannot germinate. And after planting your seeds, expect absolutely nothing in return: Give without remembering you gave and take without forgetting you took."

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow !!

Most of us stay walled up because we're afraid to care too much, or not to be cared about at all.
Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?
we tell lies when we're afraid of what we don't know....afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us....but every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger.
I have come to realise that life is all about risks & it requires you to jump.... don't be a person who has to look back & wonder what they would have done, or could have had.
what would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there? what would you do if your best friend died tomorrow & you never got to tell them how much they meant to you?
So which is worse; saying something you wish you hadn't;or saying nothing & wishing that you had?

The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before!!

I hate how dispensable I am to people.
I hate how people feel they can just forget about me,
replace me, erase me without even a second thought.
It's like I don't matter to anyone. & hey, I mean I don't
blame you. I'm no one special. I just thought you were
different. I had more faith in you. & you took that,
ripped it up, shoved it in my face & walked away
without ever looking back.

Make things happen !!

What would you do right now if you knew that everything today would turn out perfectly?
What project would you start, what person would you talk to, what problem would you tackle if you could be assured of success?
Is there anything you're putting off because you're afraid of failure?
Is there anyone you're avoiding because you're afraid of what they would say or think?
There is no guarantee of success. But there is a guarantee that if you never go for it, you'll never have it.
And even in the failed attempts, you'll learn and grow.
There is no guarantee that other people will think highly of all you say and do. But that's their problem.
Do you believe in the worth of your own pursuits?
If so, then what could possibly prevent you from following them?
If you're looking for a sure thing, then here's one -- everything you achieve will come only from the things you attempt.
In order to succeed, you must proceed.... Today is a great day to start.

Life as i Know iT !!

Life as I KnOW iT ...............

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there's always two sides.
I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned it's a lot easier to react than it is to stop & think.
I've learned that you either control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, & what you've learned from them, than how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned that quantity is more important than quality when it comes to friends.
I've learned that it isn't enough to be forgiven by others. sometimes you just have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that no matter how badly your heart is broken, the world won't stop for you.
I've learned that backgrounds & circumstances might have influenced who you are, but we are responsible for the people we become.
I've learned that you can't make somebody love you,all you can do is be somebody who can be loved.
I've learned that the word 'love' has many meanings, but it loses value when over-used and most importantly, I've learned that no matter how old or wise you think you are, life never stops teaching.

words can neva huRT me Or can they ??

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. That's a crock! An absolute crock! Whoever wrote this didn't have a clue.


I didn't believe it was true ... that "words can never hurt me." As a child, I knew that words hurt me on a regular basis. When I saw my classmate hold back his tears and lower his head when called a "sissy," something inside me ached for my friend, because though I couldn't navigate the nuance of language in the third grade, I knew the term "sissy" was disgraceful.Have you ever had someone say something to you that cut you to the quick?Whether they were meant to be in jest or not, foolish words often penetrate to the depths of our being and are stored in our memory banks forever.I recently had the unfortunate opportunity to experience this very thing.I consider myself growing in maturity and therefore able to handle little hurtful comments here and there. I take them at face value, may or may not consider them and then easily forget them as if they were never spoken. However, this time apparently the line was crossed and my emotions took over. A comment was made that instantly broke my heart..
A friend I care about called me a " LEECH " ...my reaction was, at first, to try to explain my feelings...because I sensed something was wrong with the friendship.....he simply didnt answer/return my calls or emails with no logical explanation!..all I wanted him to know was that I wanted to salvage our friendship, and that I didnt want to lose him..you make things work no matter what you dont walk away .. but it was futile against the barrage of words he was tossing my way.The clincher was when he called me a LEECH leaving me crying. Or, more specifically, sobbing.
I have been thinking about this since then. Replaying the scenario over and over again wondering how one word that should be insignificant in the grand scheme of things could have such an impact on my thought life.

Hurtful words wound your self esteem. How can you esteem yourself, if people whom you respect or have authority afflict you with such words? It's even more disheartening when you succeed in life despite those words yet you cannot enjoy it because something inside of you feels unworthy. You've achieved but you feel like a fraud.

The hurting words are no longer outside of you, but are inside your head taunting you, bullying you, criticizing you. You've become your own abuser.

Words do hurt.!!! Damaging words can become internalized and can position you in life as the abused or the abuser. But Truth sets us free.Will truth speak to my agonizing heart and remind me of who I am and how irrefutably valuable I am ??? Only then will I heal.

I just want him to know that words are powerful, words once said can never be taken back....They can make or break a person. They could lift the spirit or destroy the soul...

“My heart smiled when you kissed my lips. What a sweet surprise.”

Current mood: surprised

When did you became a part of my life?
When did I let you in?
I don't know...
I know that you came in and brought happiness and joy.
I know that you came in and put a light in my life.
But when did you become a part of my life?
When did I let you in?
I know that with you I can be happy
I know that with you my life can be much better.
But when did you become a part of my life?
When did I let you in?
I know that together we can build something good.
I know that together we can conquer the world.
But when did you become a part of my life?
When did I let you in?

“My wish isn't to mean everything to everyone but something to someone.”

Current mood: WISHFUL

If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday.....
To the sound of your voice in my ear
The warmth of your lips on my lips,
The touch of your fingers on my skin,
And the feel of your heart beating next to mine...
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
With anyone other than you.
You will always be the one,
The one I make my wish for...
If i could have just one wish...
That wish would be ....
YOU

HOPE -- objects in d rear view mirror r closer than they appear !!

Current mood: hopeful

I have realised that it takes a lot of courage to be different......
to have your own beliefs and voice em.
to build your own dreams and live em........
Being yourself is the only way to let others really know you.
Only if they really know you ...
will they be able to
LOVE YOU !

Lost in thought .......

Current mood: thoughtful

As we grow up,
we learn that even the one person
that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will...
You will have your heart broken
probably more than once
and it's harder every time......
You'll break hearts too,
so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You'll fight with your best friend.
You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.....
You'll cry
because time is passing too fast,
and
you'll eventually lose someone
you love.
So take as many pictures as you can,
laugh every opportunity you get,
and
love like you've never been hurt ....
because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute
of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
live your life and treasure every moment of it ....

FORGIVENESS ....Whats it for?

I have had a very trying week, full of discovering different levels of deception, my mind, and heart, have been so consumed with these 'things' that have happened, that I haven't been able to think clearly or even have a moment of peace. I have been battling it out in my mind, whether I forgive , or simply move on and remain bitter.

. . If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa

FORGIVENESS ....Whats it for?

So i asked myself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" the answer was "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.

Then i realised that forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dared me to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that my hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenged me to give up my destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future.I suddenly felt confident that I could survive the pain and grow from it.

There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."--Mahatma Gandhi

The hurts won't heal until I forgive! I realised that constantly reliving my wounded feelings only gives the person who caused me pain power over me. Instead of mentally replaying my hurt, it helps to focus my energy on the healing, not the hurt!

Forgiveness is a journey. I may never forget AND I choose to forgive. I can forgive and tomorrow I may feel the pain all over again. As life goes on and I choose to remember and feel the pain, then is the time to once again remember that I have already forgiven. Mentally forgive again if necessary, then move forward. When we allow it, time can dull the vividness of the memory of the hurt; the memory will eventually fade.

I am reminding myself that we are only human. Sometimes people do and say hurtful things. It is important to focus on what you have done to learn from the experience.

For me the only upside of all the anger is the person I have become.someone that wakes up and realizes I am not afraid of the journey. Someone that knows that the truth, is at best, a partially told story. That anger, like growth, comes in spurts and sits and in it's wake leaves a new chance of acceptance and the promise of calm....

Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, AND it works!

So yeah !I choose not to be angry anymore... I am taking the first step.My eyes closed, taking a deep breath in and then breath out ....feeling the weight literally lifted from my shoulders.

. . Love is an act of endless forgiveness. - Peter Ustinov