HOPE -- objects in d rear view mirror r closer than they appear !!

Current mood: hopeful

I have realised that it takes a lot of courage to be different......
to have your own beliefs and voice em.
to build your own dreams and live em........
Being yourself is the only way to let others really know you.
Only if they really know you ...
will they be able to
LOVE YOU !

Lost in thought .......

Current mood: thoughtful

As we grow up,
we learn that even the one person
that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will...
You will have your heart broken
probably more than once
and it's harder every time......
You'll break hearts too,
so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You'll fight with your best friend.
You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.....
You'll cry
because time is passing too fast,
and
you'll eventually lose someone
you love.
So take as many pictures as you can,
laugh every opportunity you get,
and
love like you've never been hurt ....
because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute
of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
live your life and treasure every moment of it ....

FORGIVENESS ....Whats it for?

I have had a very trying week, full of discovering different levels of deception, my mind, and heart, have been so consumed with these 'things' that have happened, that I haven't been able to think clearly or even have a moment of peace. I have been battling it out in my mind, whether I forgive , or simply move on and remain bitter.

. . If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa

FORGIVENESS ....Whats it for?

So i asked myself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" the answer was "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.

Then i realised that forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dared me to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility that my hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenged me to give up my destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future.I suddenly felt confident that I could survive the pain and grow from it.

There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."--Mahatma Gandhi

The hurts won't heal until I forgive! I realised that constantly reliving my wounded feelings only gives the person who caused me pain power over me. Instead of mentally replaying my hurt, it helps to focus my energy on the healing, not the hurt!

Forgiveness is a journey. I may never forget AND I choose to forgive. I can forgive and tomorrow I may feel the pain all over again. As life goes on and I choose to remember and feel the pain, then is the time to once again remember that I have already forgiven. Mentally forgive again if necessary, then move forward. When we allow it, time can dull the vividness of the memory of the hurt; the memory will eventually fade.

I am reminding myself that we are only human. Sometimes people do and say hurtful things. It is important to focus on what you have done to learn from the experience.

For me the only upside of all the anger is the person I have become.someone that wakes up and realizes I am not afraid of the journey. Someone that knows that the truth, is at best, a partially told story. That anger, like growth, comes in spurts and sits and in it's wake leaves a new chance of acceptance and the promise of calm....

Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, AND it works!

So yeah !I choose not to be angry anymore... I am taking the first step.My eyes closed, taking a deep breath in and then breath out ....feeling the weight literally lifted from my shoulders.

. . Love is an act of endless forgiveness. - Peter Ustinov

What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger: Turning Bad Breaks Into Blessings!!

What doesnt Kill you makes you stronger! Right?

So.. is that statement true?

There are two arguments to this statement..

1. Agreeing that it will make you stronger...
So more experiences throughout life may hurt you more and more... and when in the process of getting hurt, you are somehow less vulnerable every time it hits... It makes you more aware of life, and you can learn from your mistake and avoid'em next time around, but that doesnt mean that you will get hurt less... but it does make you stronger and ready to fight it faster. Been there, done this, done that! So really... lots of bad experiences in life do make you stronger.... IF it doesn't kill you first.

2. Disagreeing that it will make you stronger...
Say that someone gets into a car accident and then are left disabled for life!Or may be some disease... Take dementia for example. A person's mental state will deteriorate... translation = it is affecting the mental state but doesn't really kill you.. and even when trying to fight it... you are not getting any stronger!!

For the most part.. I think I agree... maybe when going down the hill you dont like the process, and you feel rather weaker than stronger... then when you beat it.. you become stronger...

now think for a moment, what does it make you stronger for? For the next time it hits?

Neva Give UP !!!

I believe that if you truly love something and it makes you happy, why be with out it. Never give up on what you love. We all have something in our lives that we love and will never give up no matter the cost or how far it takes to have it. Even in a relationship, you may find that you are in love and no matter how far the person is, distance should not matter.

Everyone has one true love and finding it, is almost a miracle when it happens. A miracle that is so great, so powerful and to wonderful to walk away from.

The love that you desire is yours and yours alone. No matter how old we are or how many years go by, you will always remember and welcome it back into your life over and over again. Art is my love and giving it up, is not an option in my life. I may take a break or forget about it for a week, a month or even a year, but it is my love that will be there when I most desire it. It is my Passion and my dream to create art. No matter what your love may be, don't forget that it makes you happy. Happiness is the most important part of finding you love something.

You might have more than one love. Some have the love for their families, friends, jobs, raising animals,hobbies, etc... What ever your love may be, just know that at the end of each day, you have something of your very own. It will be there when "you" most desire it. Life is to short to give up on what you love.

“"I can't" isn't a reason to give up, it's a reason to try harder”

LoSiNG iT !!!!

Interesting question: what does it mean to lose your virginity?


In the strictest term; you are a virgin until you've had sexual intercourse with the member of the opposite sex.? But this definition leaves a lot of people out of the loop. While the social policy makers look to redefine marriage to include same sex partnerships, maybe it is time we also revisited what it means to be a virgin.

When we think of virgins, we think of "white wedding innocents" who define sex as a synonym for gender. But the fact is, the standard definition of virginity lets you get away with having a lot of different kinds of sex with still being able to call yourself a virgin. In theory, under the traditional definition of virginity, someone who is homosexual can have sex every day and still be a virgin. Someone who has oral sex regularly is also still a virgin. Does that really make sense? Something is a miss!

The whole narrow definition of virginity is in desperate need of a rewrite. When does "fooling around" end and "having sex" begin?What does "losing your virginity" mean to you? Is it a state of mind or a specific act? Is it something that can be taken from you, or does it only count if you willingly give it away?

This is Our liFe..tHiS is Us !!!

This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody would not do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done…


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